It has been almost 10 years since I last posted here. I was awaken by the event of a relative, whom i know personally, and of a close age to me. It has caught me thinking that I was once a person that practices retro- and introspection. But perhaps caught by the wave of the adulthood, husbandhood, parenthood, and many other hoods, I may have forgotten such practice, to which led to the abandonment of this space. I wanted to share a few anecdotes, at least some of it on this post.
That life is unexpected. And to expect things, which usually clouded by our biases, is a road to dissapointment. I learned that full acceptance of His qadr would makes us be more grateful of our experiences. And understand that our knowledge is limited, and it is impossible to rationalise why things are bound to happened not the way we expected it. And to rationalise things is also a road to dissapointment because our job is not to rationalise unexpected outcomes, but rather, accept that He has his reasons, and that his reasons are beyond our comprehension. And that's okay - we don't need to know everything to feel good about ourselves. We just have to accept that we have our plans but His plan is the best of plans, and we are in good hands. No matter how bad things are, or how bad we think things will turn out to be, we are in safe hands. 'He is Merciful, and it is in Him that we believe, and it is in Him that we put all our trust'.
That people around us makes up our happiness. No matter if we are single, with a partner, still have a family around, friends, accomplices or anyone close to us - it is of the highest importance that we cherish the people around us. Contentment breeds happiness and makes our soul feel good and safe and yes, fuzzy feelings. I have accepted that happiness is imperfect. There is no such thing as being perfectly happy. And that's okay too. Having people that we love around us and serving them is what will make us whole.
That it is perfectly okay to be kind, in a cruel world. It doesn't put you in an unfair advantage. But if you are being imposed with injustice, the response is not to be unkind or cruel but rather you must by all means stick with the right principle and still be kind in the process. And make it clear that they do not mistake your kindness with weakness. We need to be more kind with others, and especially, most importantly, with ourselves first.
That you are a work in progress. You do not have to attain anything to worth anything more or less. You do not have to prove to anyone anything. Stick with your work ethics. Your rezeki is written since day one. Your job is to act upon your lives. He will make the process easier for you.
“O Allah, I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and laziness, from miserliness and cowardice, from being overcome by debt and overpowered by men [people]”
